Realization of Change & Interdependence

This has been a night of realization and inspiration. Among other things, I realized that up until recently, I had been stuck in the mode of being independent. Now this is not such a bad place to be, it’s certainly better than being dependent.

I’ve made many changes over the past year or so, one of which was a willingness to shift from being independent to being interdependent or choosing to rely on others and not just myself (Keep in mind that choice is the key difference between interdependence and dependence). In considering why it took me so long to make this shift, I realized that part of me didn't want to let go of being independent because part of me never let go of some of the thinks I enjoyed about being single.

I’ve come to believe that all change (“good” change, “bad” change, “all” change) brings with it both gain and loss. And though I embraced what I had to gain in marrying the woman I love, I did not truly acknowledge what was lost in this change. This independent mind contributed to a sense of “you and me” rather than “us.” This may have been a small shift, but these small adjustments are adding up and resulting in a better life.

The lesson: To embrace change as a process of growth and acknowledge both what you gain and what you loose with each change.